In this article I want to write about a theme which often presents itself in my practice. I know personally how such a situation feels and I believe that there are only a few people in the world not experiencing the deep wish to be together with a person somewhen in their life while the circumstances turn against a relationship. Before giving some tips how to behave in another way than the usual „Then just call her/him!“ I want to talk about the possible reasons for unfulfilled love on a higher energetic level.

Soul contracts with signature

To describe it very simple, we can imagine sitting on cloud number 7 before being born on earth and we are creating an intelligent plan how we want to develop ourselves in the upcoming life.  To develop certain characteristics, to grow, to learn, to mature, but also to pay „open invoices“ of past lifes and to help other people in their development by showing a certain behavior, positive, neutral or negative.

If the plan is drawn and the people are found which decided to help us having insights, to bring us on our soul path and to give us some certain experience, we set up a contract which is signed by all participants.

A due contract

In such a soul contract for an upcoming life there can for example be a passage saying: „My female power is not developed enough. Soul X will be born in a male body and will meet me in my teens to show me in his function as a mirror my necessity to mature in my femininity“. With a not well developed femininity this woman would not let a man come close to her anyway, but man X in her soul contract has had several past life together with her, so it will be possible for him to get close to her very easily.

So on day X in the teen years of this girl this two souls met and the young man with soul X behaves like an idiot – according to the soul plan. The heart of the woman breaks.

 

Healing or hating

Now the young woman can choose between two options: The first is to retrieve and to check her own attitude about men, her femininity, her self-worth and her self-love and to heal what is unclear in this area.

If she chooses option two, she will demonize the young man, she will develop the opinion that all men “are idiots”, she will cultivate hatred against men, will separate from her painful feelings and never let a man into her heart again.

Ignorance is no excuse

This sentence is not only true for the mundane laws but also for universal laws. In the case of the young woman it could be possible that there is nobody there to tell her what really happens, if she looks deeper: The young man just fulfilled the contract both of them have set up and so his behaviour was an act of love. He did hold a mirror in front of her face to help her observe the inner hurtings regarding femininity already existing in her. He did show her that she has to do work before entering a soulful relationship, that she has to dissolve the borders and blockades in her heart and/or body first.

Ignorance is no excuse for the own past, for the own inner injuries which unhealed automatically lead to becoming also an offender and hurting. By the way: Knowledge is one step, but not automatically the complete healing, the change from hate to love on all levels is the healing.

Unfulfilled love waits to be healed

More and more men and women tell me, that they make the experience meeting a person for the first time in this life and having the feeling „to know this person already“, as it could be from a past life and that they have a clear feeling in their heart, that they are determined to be with a certain person for a shorter or longer period in this life. But how can somebody handle this feelings if the other person does not give any signals of interests? Are the own feelings wrong? Are they just fantasy? Does it need action and should somebody try to persuade the other person?

It is useful to take a look on the own plan of the soul. Is this man, this woman foreseen in my life as a partner? And if the answer is yes – there is a lot of work to do.

 

The great challenge

People who are very empathic and maybe also clairvoyant can see or feel the energetic cords between people, a soul contract brings with. This cords are often very thick, very strong and very magnetic. It can be overwhelming for the one person - but why is the other person rejecting and drawing back from the relationship? In a lot of causes it’s the unclear inner situation of one person which holds the other person back to go into the relationship.

If this person already had a relationship with the other person before in this life it is easy to see where there is work to do: Every single point somebody does not like on another person is one unhealed thing in the own self. If there has not been a relationships with this person before in this life, the upcoming feelings and thoughts while thinking of the beloved person can show the way where the unhealed inner parts are.

In all cases not reacting people force us to grow in self love, self acceptance and self respect. Soul partners who handle this lession seriously according to the made contract will not step into the relationships before they realize on the soul level, that the other one has reached eyeheight.

Doing the homework and drinking tea

So patience is necessary. Fallen in love everybody wants to run out of the stable box like a horse gone wild and wants to throw tons of love on the other person – but that’s not what really is to do. The more the person suffers in the need for the other person, the more she has to learn to give the love first to herself. She has to learn to get a clear picture of herself what automatically brings a clearer picture about the wanted person. And last but not least everybody with an unfulfilled love theme should learn how to develop an energetic structure for the upcoming relationship, where the energy can develop into, but – and this is very important – without any binding or pulling magical techniques.

Soul relationships – and relationships in general – are only working with balance in mind and view, the balance of the own good and bad sides, the good and bad parts of the partner. After accepting both sides and valuation of both sides the energy generates for a life according to the plan of the soul.

What seems so abominable, the drawback, the missing reactions of the other person or even the refusal of the beloved person is on a deeper – or lets say higher level – a gift given with a lot of love. In fact, it is the greatest gift love can give: Time and space to dive into the own being and to develop clearness and consciousness before entering the relationships.

My wish for you is that you are able to recognize the gifts in rejection or pullback of you potential partner and that it brings peace, healing and growth in your life.

Yours in the heart,

Christine

Who teaches her clients to prepare for their upcoming relationships on a high level